Do you Ranters have Facebook? I do. I have a lot of friends on Facebook. I love the feature that allows me to leave comments on the status messages of Friends. It's almost like an @reply on Twitter. (I love Twitter. (You were Right Chris.))
So when one of my guy friends who's newly engaged wrote a status that said he had "Survived the NKOTB Concert" I replied "I can't believe you went to that estrogen fest! You need to see a Monster Truck show to even things out." It's funny because it's true.
His reply was very. much. less. so.
"You're just jealous you don't have a man to "force" to go! And I got [name of Fiancee redacted] the tickets for her B-day. And I enjoyed the concert, actually"I hit the delete button. I don't need "rude" on my page. Thanks.
His reply didn't hurt my feelings, but it does point to a growing trend that I find seriously annoying. Okay. First of all. I'm glad he's happy and all goo-goo-eyed in love. That's precious. And while it is a well known fact I'm single, what isn't a well known fact is that I'm damn happy.
The thing I absolutely hate about most new couples or newly engadged couples is that they seem to think that I can't possibly be happy because I'm single. They assume that I'm incomplete and that I MUST be coupled-up with someone.
STOP TRYING TO COUPLE ME UP!
I'm speaking up for all my single ladies (and men). I absolutely LOVE being single. I love the life I have built for myself. I didn't need any one else to help me create my life. It's the exact way I want it. I have an adorable condo (I don't want a lawn to mow), I don't have fight anyone for the covers and I can take out my own trash.
I don't live in an incredibly urban setting like Chicago or New York where it is not only acceptable to be near 30 and single, but also normal. So I understand that the mentality in my community surrounding a 27 year old, attractive single female is either a) There's something wrong with her or b) she must be gay.
Neither a) or b) are true. What is true is I don't need anyone else to complete me. I have family. I have friends. I have some friends who are a part of my family. I'm not lonely. I am selfish. I don't want to share my bed with anyone right now.
I have another friend who is male and who has made it well known that he's very interested in dating me. He's great. I'm just not interested. He recently told me that he's frustrated because I act like a girl who is taken. He's right. I AM taken. WITH ME! I absolutely love being me. Ask anyone.
That's not to say that if I met someone who I thought was worth all the trouble - the listening to them snore, their stubble in the sink and on my soap, or their wet towel hanging on the back of my (wood) bathroom door - I wouldn't go for it. I would. I haven't met him yet. And if I have, I'm blissfully unaware.
Listen up all you coupled-up peoples: THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME! Keep your I'm-so-happy-in-love comments to yourself. Let's see which one of us is happiest 10 years from now. ;)
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